There needs to be room for people to disagree. The problem is when two or more sides feel passionately about their’s being the correct course of action. It really doesn’t matter what the issue is, if we feel strongly that one action is good and another bad there is little room to negotiate an alternative. Passion leads to frustration, frustration leads to anger, and anger leads to hatred … or something like that.
I think we’ve all seen this happen, but does it have to? The obvious answer is “no,” but that’s easier said than done. For example, we have people arguing over raising the debt ceiling once again. There are those who feel we have no choice but to do so and others who we have no choice but to not. Both sides believe catastrophic consequences will result if their convictions do not prevail.
Belief, it’s powerful; and that’s what happens when an opinion becomes belief. Things we hold opinions of, and should be able to debate, enter the realm of core values. This is problematic when the real solution resides in the possibility of working together.